<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Ally Counseling and Therapy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Ally Counseling and Therapy is a women owned practice. Our practice is safe, culturally sensitive and inclusive for all people. ]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2026 14:15:55 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[High Achiever Burnout: What Happens When Even Meditation Needs a KPI?]]></title><description><![CDATA[High achiever burnout isn't just about working too much. For many successful professionals, constant achievement becomes intertwined with self-worth, making it difficult to slow down, be present, or simply enjoy their own company. This article explores the hidden psychology behind performance-based self-worth and why healing begins with rebuilding your relationship with yourself.]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/high-achiever-burnout</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a63c0df424f5a9980a90849</guid><category><![CDATA[High Achievers]]></category><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 24 Jul 2026 20:29:08 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/19815d_e9e2df73113c462286dc45a519ff27be~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Understanding All-or-Nothing Thinking From a DBT Perspective]]></title><description><![CDATA[Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I shouldn’t have had that cookie today, but since I already ruined my diet, I might as well eat whatever I want for the rest of the week"? Or tell yourself, "my partner said something upsetting to me, we must be incompatible."? If so, you've experienced all-or-nothing thinking.  All-or-nothing thinking, also called black-and-white thinking or dichotomous thinking, is one of the Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs). It is a tendency to see situations,...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/understanding-all-or-nothing-thinking-from-a-dbt-perspective</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a4ee3c738b98d875b89d9da</guid><category><![CDATA[Mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2026 00:13:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_b5d4171b52ee478897cfb6deb092ad37~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Ally Counseling &amp; Therapy Assistant</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[为什么你会感觉自己有「不同版本的自己」：从内在家庭系统（ IFS ），理解管理者、消防员与流放者]]></title><description><![CDATA[总是对自己要求很高、容易内耗、害怕让家人失望吗？透过 IFS（内在家庭系统）理解管理者、消防员与流放者，探索完美主义、内在批评与亚裔家庭压力背后的保护机制。]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/ifs-%E5%86%85%E5%9C%A8%E5%AE%B6%E5%BA%AD%E7%B3%BB%E7%BB%9F-%E5%AE%8C%E7%BE%8E%E4%B8%BB%E4%B9%89</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a3738b4569489026edda085</guid><category><![CDATA[创伤治疗]]></category><pubDate>Sun, 21 Jun 2026 01:27:59 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_fc12f5e9f3534bac927e8df5c1074052~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Ally Counseling &amp; Therapy Assistant</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Why You Feel Like You Have “Different Versions” of Yourself: Understanding Managers, Firefighters, and Exiles in IFS Therapy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Learn how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy explains perfectionism, people-pleasing, procrastination, and the inner critic through managers, firefighters, and exiles, especially within Asian American and immigrant experiences.]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/ifs-managers-firefighters-exiles-asian-american</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a372fb2a8977cb11dd6ef2b</guid><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><category><![CDATA[Psychoeducation]]></category><pubDate>Sun, 21 Jun 2026 00:57:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_fc12f5e9f3534bac927e8df5c1074052~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Sexuality and Aging: Your Retirement Plan for Intimacy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Successful people often spend decades preparing financially for retirement, but few prepare emotionally or erotically for aging. This article explores sexuality and aging through intimacy, body image, emotional connection, and long-term relationships. It reflects on how older adults often become more sexually alive not because their bodies stop aging, but because shame, performance pressure, and self-judgment loosen their grip over time.]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/sexuality-and-aging-intimacy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a0e1ca4ce2b5b4a4d6dccc5</guid><category><![CDATA[Intimate Relationship]]></category><category><![CDATA[Sexuality Education]]></category><category><![CDATA[性教育]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 20 May 2026 21:54:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/19815d_4050c355016c44a4ba96b283fd07e6f6~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Navigating the High-Pressure World: Finding Peace in Perfectionism]]></title><description><![CDATA[High Achievers: Make Anxiety Your Ally to Thrive In today’s fast-paced world, many of us carry a constant weight of expectations—at work,...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/navigating-the-high-pressure-world-finding-peace-in-perfectionism</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68d58a2a6b49d0243066eaf0</guid><category><![CDATA[Psychoeducation]]></category><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 25 Sep 2025 19:01:43 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/759f6fb07c7148e5b3bdeba7b6e70d4e.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[纽约心理咨询师-赵君的故事 #StoriesOfAlly]]></title><description><![CDATA[我叫赵君，they/them 或是 ta，来自湖北，本科读新闻传播学院，研究所来美国念社工，有一份全职的督导工作在社区心理服务中心，下班或假日在 Ally 兼职，所以我大部分的时间都在工作。工作以外，我喜欢看动漫、电影电视节目等，我也喜欢看书以及探索大自然，像是去公园散步、...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E7%BA%BD%E7%BA%A6%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86%E5%92%A8%E8%AF%A2%E5%B8%88-%E8%B5%B5%E5%90%9B%E7%9A%84%E6%95%85%E4%BA%8B-storiesofally</link><guid isPermaLink="false">669976d8a7e144b08346c6a0</guid><category><![CDATA[咨询师个人故事访谈]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 02 Aug 2024 12:00:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_c1ce001eca8842509271eeb8e1754c32~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[纽约心理咨询师-Ashley的故事 #StoriesOfAlly]]></title><description><![CDATA[我是 Ashley，在芝加哥长大，大学是念心理学，毕业之后到 Duke University 做跟自闭症孩童有关的研究，后来到 Columbia University 读社工。现在的全职工作是在一个 Chinese-American Planning Center...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E7%BA%BD%E7%BA%A6%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86%E5%92%A8%E8%AF%A2%E5%B8%88-ashley%E7%9A%84%E6%95%85%E4%BA%8B-storiesofally</link><guid isPermaLink="false">669975bdfb2f23e689af47e7</guid><category><![CDATA[咨询师个人故事访谈]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 18 Jul 2024 20:10:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure 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Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[纽约心理咨询师Roxy的故事 #StoriesOfAlly]]></title><description><![CDATA[我是张柔，英文名字是 Roxy，来自中国北京，是一个孩子与两只猫的妈妈。我很喜欢玩游戏，以前会玩魔兽世界、switch，也有玩桌游。本科专业是心理，研究生来美国念心理健康咨询，毕业后在一个社区精神健康服务部门工作七年后才来到...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E7%BA%BD%E7%BA%A6%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86%E5%92%A8%E8%AF%A2%E5%B8%88roxy%E7%9A%84%E6%95%85%E4%BA%8B-storiesofally</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6632a44a7952fb7770bbf01c</guid><category><![CDATA[咨询师个人故事访谈]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 08 May 2024 22:23:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_4202e27f431b4320b6e2b2b64c49a6cd~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[纽约心理咨询师-意垚的故事 #StoriesOfAlly]]></title><description><![CDATA[我是意垚，我老家在湖南，是侗族人。面向大众我会介绍自己是一位非二元偏女性气质的跨性别者，但对我自己而言，我的性别和性取向就像是挂在天上的一朵软绵绵的云，它有时是淡粉色的独角兽，有时是鲜艳的草莓蛋糕。我从小在中国不同城市生活过，高中来到美国。我很喜欢语言，特别享受用对方的语言...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E7%BA%BD%E7%BA%A6%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86%E5%92%A8%E8%AF%A2%E5%B8%88-%E6%84%8F%E5%9E%9A%E7%9A%84%E6%95%85%E4%BA%8B-storiesofally</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65eb7cbb23de2801dbfc8b8d</guid><category><![CDATA[咨询师个人故事访谈]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 08 Mar 2024 21:18:42 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_6c8103d9106647fab002c2244b4fbe0a~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[长久幸福关系的秘诀，你知道几个?]]></title><description><![CDATA[爱情里最幸福的瞬间之一，是你喜欢的人刚好也喜欢你。但在一起后要怎么让这份幸福感长久延续呢？我们整理了6个小秘诀，一起来探讨如何营造幸福感吧！ 1. 展现真实的一面 每个人都有些许不完美的特质，然而过度隐藏这些面向其实久了会累，同时也可能让ta感到困惑。挑选一个适当的时机，与...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E9%95%BF%E4%B9%85%E5%B9%B8%E7%A6%8F%E5%85%B3%E7%B3%BB%E7%9A%84%E7%A7%98%E8%AF%80%EF%BC%8C%E4%BD%A0%E7%9F%A5%E9%81%93%E5%87%A0%E4%B8%AA</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65da36d9129295d084610de8</guid><category><![CDATA[亲密关系]]></category><pubDate>Sat, 24 Feb 2024 18:38:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/7b142432c02849f5987bb20b236731a3.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[紐約藝術治療師-悅均的故事 #StoriesOfAlly]]></title><description><![CDATA[我是悅均，來自台灣，是鄉下長大的孩子，我是個喜歡嘗試各種新事物的人。去年開始決定要好好養自己，重拾陶藝也開始接觸絹印、鉤針，也嘗試一些戶外活動，像是射箭。我很喜歡小動物，雖然從小是跟著狗長大的，大學畢業後家裡開始養貓咪，成為貓奴。 大概高中時，我知道自己喜歡心理學、對輔導也有點興趣，所以當初才會去教育大學念心理諮商。一部份可能跟我來自單親家庭，而原生家庭內也有許多挑戰，這也許促使我選擇了與心理相關的專業。另外，我覺得與人互動、幫助人也符合我的性格。我一直是喜歡畫畫的人，但是因為家人希望我可以讀書，所以一直沒有機會往藝術發展，大三接觸了藝術治療，發現它結合我喜歡的心理與藝術，覺得可以是未來的方向。 雖然我知道自己的興趣方向，但大學畢業後仍然猶豫不決要不要念研究所，所以當時我決定先到澳洲打工一年，利用這段時間體驗生活、探索自己，順便存未來的學費以及支持家裡的經濟。研究所選擇藝術治，我覺得是第二次為我自己做選擇，雖然知道這條路不穩定也相對挑戰性高，但是這一路的經驗讓我知道這是我想要做的事，因此我決定勇敢地嘗試。 在過去幾年的工作中，我嘗試過許多不同的職位與環境，不管是在社區、醫院、學校...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E8%97%9D%E8%A1%93%E6%B2%BB%E7%99%82%E5%B8%ABavery%E7%9A%84%E6%95%85%E4%BA%8B-storiesofally</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65d9107de9b89f20db7aaa60</guid><category><![CDATA[咨询师个人故事访谈]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 23 Feb 2024 23:49:58 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_a4592ffdcb2f4593873428f0b84a5208~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[个人故事访谈-Sarah心理咨询师 #StoriesOfAlly]]></title><description><![CDATA[我是 Sarah，来自中国，本科在 NYU 读心理学专业，研究生在 NYU 继续读心理咨询专业。 我很喜欢食物，小时候的梦想是成为甜品师，觉得做菜、做甜点的过程很疗愈。过去的我不是很喜欢运动，因为爸妈总是督促我运动，以及由于经历过体育课的竞争和比较，我想到 “运动”...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E4%B8%AA%E4%BA%BA%E6%95%85%E4%BA%8B%E8%AE%BF%E8%B0%88-sarah%E5%BF%83%E7%90%86%E5%92%A8%E8%AF%A2%E5%B8%88-storiesofally</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65c4f482537e18c80bf79b28</guid><category><![CDATA[咨询师个人故事访谈]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 08 Feb 2024 15:47:08 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/563164_1d33d63189a844598cd45a9d6195c590~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Avery (YuehChun) Chao</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapy VS Dating ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Finding a good therapist isn’t easy. Even with the best matchmakers for you (I consider myself a pretty good matchmaker both...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/therapy-vs-dating</link><guid isPermaLink="false">63f12bf42019f849159d92b8</guid><category><![CDATA[Psychoeducation]]></category><category><![CDATA[Intimate Relationship]]></category><pubDate>Sat, 18 Feb 2023 20:05:54 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_df66c6bcda0b495eb3dbefe6053c123e~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Grievers are allowed to be sexual ]]></title><description><![CDATA[Most people associate grievers with asexuality. So when grievers do start to feel sexual, they often instantly start to shame or...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/grievers-are-allowed-to-be-sexual</link><guid isPermaLink="false">63b9c813466d16ef1af0a45b</guid><category><![CDATA[Sexuality Education]]></category><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><pubDate>Sat, 07 Jan 2023 19:35:44 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/dab0b6d24acb4521a7094a3f80a32dc2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[一学习工作就总想吃东西？可能你更需要的是休息！]]></title><description><![CDATA[“外面天都黑了，风吹得玻璃呼呼作响，一想到还要加班，我必须来上一盒酥脆多汁的炸鸡和一块洒满芝士的披萨！” “这周连续好几门课期中考试和论文，我必须一天三杯珍珠奶茶才能续命！” “好不容易把任务完成了，快让我狂吃一顿火锅庆祝一下！”...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/zh/post/%E4%B8%80%E5%AD%A6%E4%B9%A0%E5%B7%A5%E4%BD%9C%E5%B0%B1%E6%80%BB%E6%83%B3%E5%90%83%E4%B8%9C%E8%A5%BF%EF%BC%9F%E5%8F%AF%E8%83%BD%E4%BD%A0%E6%9B%B4%E9%9C%80%E8%A6%81%E7%9A%84%E6%98%AF%E4%BC%91%E6%81%AF%EF%BC%81</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6346c66e0e71a0d885813ffb</guid><pubDate>Wed, 12 Oct 2022 18:43:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/0e2f4be8174546d2bbff93b8a8c0ca83.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>yichuanzhang</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What if there is no such a thing as sexual desire disorder?]]></title><description><![CDATA[I get clients asking me everyday, “Is it me?” “Am I abnormal?” “What do I do to increase or decrease my sexual desire?” As I...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/what-if-there-is-no-such-a-thing-as-sexual-desire-disorder</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6346c373ffd19d279e7c737e</guid><category><![CDATA[Intimate Relationship]]></category><category><![CDATA[Sexuality Education]]></category><category><![CDATA[Psychoeducation]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 12 Oct 2022 13:49:14 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/f7180e735a0ae77c7bf463d6cec7f42d.jpg/v1/fit/w_853,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When meditation and stillness doesn’t work]]></title><description><![CDATA[Meditation has been shown to have a great benefit in reducing stress, anxiety, and focusing in the present. This increases our awareness...]]></description><link>https://www.allytherapy.org/post/when-meditation-and-stillness-doesn-t-work</link><guid isPermaLink="false">62f823e31fe3f62a6193ff4d</guid><category><![CDATA[Trauma]]></category><category><![CDATA[Mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[Psychoeducation]]></category><pubDate>Sat, 13 Aug 2022 22:24:25 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/10d9f2_07c8574a562c4f9ba227649c18dca225~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_275,h_183,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>venetacallpani</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ladies, Let's reconstruct Love and Sex]]></title><description><![CDATA[We’re launching Part Two of our bilingual bicultural Love and Sex empowerment program for Asian women this weekend. 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