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 Zonghua (Cathy) Shi

​She/ Her

Tier I Therapist 

Hi, my name is Zonghua (Cathy). I am a Master’s student in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness at New York University.

 

Before anything else, I want to acknowledge the courage it takes to reach out for support. Taking this step may come with uncertainty, but it also reflects resilience, self-determination, and a desire to better understand yourself and your life. Many people come to therapy when life feels overwhelming, confusing, or distant from the life they want to be living. You may feel unseen, caught between external expectations and your own needs, or exhausted from trying to hold everything together. 

 

I understand how lonely, frightening, and powerless these experiences can feel. In our work together, I hope to walk alongside you as you reconnect with yourself, clarify what matters to you, and develop more compassionate and effective ways of responding to life’s challenges.

 

I believe each client carries a capacity for growth, change, and meaning-making. I am continually moved by the courage and resilience clients show as they make sense of their experiences and move toward lives that feel more authentic and personally meaningful.

 

In our work together, I hope to offer a steady, nonjudgmental space where we can slow down, make sense of your thoughts and emotions, and understand the patterns that may be keeping you stuck. I view therapy as a collaborative process. Rather than rushing toward quick answers, we will move at your pace, with patience and attention to each small but meaningful step toward your goals. 

 

I offer therapy in Mandarin and English. I am available for virtual sessions on weekdays and weekends.

If you're used to pushing through, holding yourself to high standards, or measuring your worth by achievement, therapy can help you connect with and understand the parts that carry that burden.

My Story

I was born and raised in Beijing, China, where I spent my childhood and adolescence before coming to the United States for college in 2021. 

 

Growing up in a high-pressure, performance-oriented, and competitive environment shaped the way I understand achievement, self-worth, external expectations, and emotional survival. I am keenly aware of the pressure to overachieve, the experience of competency-based self-worth, and how easily people can learn to measure themselves through external standards: being smarter, stronger, more capable, more successful, or simply “better.” Over time, these expectations can become internalized as a harsh inner voice. What once helped us survive, succeed, or gain approval may later leave us feeling anxious, disconnected, or never good enough.

 

This experience has given me deep empathy for clients navigating perfectionism, self-criticism, imposter feelings, academic or career stress, and the pressure to constantly prove themselves. I am especially interested in helping clients explore the balance between acceptance and change: learning to understand where their current patterns come from, while also creating room for new ways of relating to themselves.

 

Coming to the United States as an international student gave me personal insight into the complexity of cultural adjustment. Moving between cultures can bring growth and new possibilities, but it can also be lonely and disorienting. Cultural differences can add complexity to how people navigate expectations, priorities, standards, communication styles, and family dynamics. Experiencing and witnessing these challenges has continued to shape my multicultural and developmental lens as a therapist.

 

My own experiences of growth, healing, and receiving support are part of what inspired me to become a therapist. I deeply appreciate the support I have received, and I hope to offer clients a similar sense of steadiness, compassion, and hope as they move along their own paths toward healing and growth. I believe therapy is not about changing who you are, but about helping you reconnect with yourself with more clarity, compassion, and agency.

Therapeutic Approaches

My therapeutic approach is integrative, collaborative, and grounded in a humanistic and person-centered foundation. I do not believe therapy should follow a one-size-fits-all model. Each client brings a unique history, cultural background, emotional world, and set of needs. Because of this, I take time to understand you as a whole person and tailor our work based on what feels most helpful for you.

 

At the center of my work is the therapeutic relationship. I believe healing often begins when clients feel genuinely seen, heard, and respected. I strive to create a space built on empathy, curiosity, trust, and genuine care, where you do not have to perform, explain yourself perfectly, or have everything figured out before beginning.

 

My work is also grounded in cultural humility. I pay attention to the different identities that shape each client’s experience, including nationality, language, gender, age, and other social identities. Rather than viewing different parts of your identity separately, I hope to understand how they intersect and influence the way you experience yourself, your relationships, and the world around you.

 

I draw from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help clients notice the connections between thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and core beliefs. This can be especially helpful when working with anxiety, self-criticism, perfectionism, avoidance, or rigid expectations of oneself. Together, we can identify patterns that may be keeping you stuck and explore more balanced, compassionate, and flexible ways of responding.

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I also incorporate Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)-informed skills, including mindfulness, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness. These tools can support clients who feel emotionally overwhelmed, caught in intense internal conflict, or unsure how to communicate their needs in relationships.

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Acceptance is an important part of my work, especially because many clients come to therapy feeling frustrated with themselves, disappointed by what has changed, or pressured to return to who they used to be. I believe acceptance does not mean giving up or denying the wish for things to be different. Instead, it can mean working with the reality of the present moment. In therapy, we can explore how certain emotions, thoughts, or coping patterns may have developed for understandable and protective reasons. At the same time, we can identify what remains possible, meaningful, and within your control, while creating space to choose new responses that better support your values, needs, and goals.

 

When helpful, I also use a psychodynamic and developmental lens to explore how early experiences, family-of-origin dynamics, and relational patterns continue to shape current thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and relationships. This can help us better understand not only what you are experiencing now, but also how these patterns developed and what new possibilities may be available.

Specialties

Depression, Anxiety, and Emotional Overwhelm

 

I support clients who are experiencing anxiety, low mood, emotional exhaustion, lack of motivation, self-doubt, or a sense of being stuck. These experiences may show up as overthinking, avoidance, difficulty relaxing, feeling disconnected from others, or struggling to move through daily responsibilities. In our work together, we can slow down and make sense of your emotional experiences with curiosity and openness rather than judgment, while also exploring practical ways to support emotional regulation, self-understanding, and meaningful change.

 

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Perfectionism, Achievement Pressure, Academic/Career Stress, and Self-Worth

 

I am especially interested in working with clients who appear high-functioning on the outside while feeling exhausted, lonely, or unsure of their worth internally. You may feel constantly “on guard”, pressured to perform, or afraid that slowing down means falling behind.

 

For some clients, this pressure is connected to perfectionism, comparison, and a strong drive to achieve. You may begin to feel that your worth depends on how competent, productive, successful, or approved of you are. For others, the pressure is also very real: demanding academic environments, competitive career paths, financial responsibilities, family expectations, immigration or visa-related concerns, and uncertainty about the future can all affect emotional well-being.

 

In therapy, we can explore how external expectations, comparison, criticism, academic/job demands, and internalized pressure affect your well-being. Together, we can work on softening negative self-talk, understanding the roots of perfectionism, and building a more stable sense of self-worth that is not solely dependent on performance.

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Family-of-Origin Stress, Generational Dynamics, and Trauma-Informed Healing

 

Our past experiences do not disappear; they often become part of how we understand ourselves, relate to others, and respond to stress. I support clients in exploring how family dynamics, generational expectations, early relational experiences, and developmental trauma may continue to shape present-day emotions, beliefs, and relationship patterns.

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Trauma does not always come from one single event. It can also emerge from repeated experiences of emotional invalidation, criticism, instability, neglect, pressure, loss, or feeling unsafe in important relationships. These experiences may affect how we see ourselves, how much space we feel allowed to take up, how easily we trust others, and how we respond to conflict, closeness, or vulnerability.

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I approach this work through a trauma-informed and strength-based lens. This means I pay close attention to safety, trust, collaboration, choice, empowerment, and cultural context in our work together. Rather than asking “What is wrong with you?” I am more interested in understanding “What happened to you?” and “How did you learn to protect yourself?”

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Many patterns that now feel painful or limiting may have once served an adaptive purpose. In therapy, we can hold both acceptance and change: honoring the strategies that helped you survive or cope, while also creating space for new ways of relating to yourself and others.

 

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Cultural Adjustment, Immigration Experiences, and Belonging

 

I work with clients navigating cultural adjustment, international or immigrant experiences, and questions of belonging. Living across cultures often means more than adjusting to a new place; it can involve learning different social norms, communication styles, expectations around independence, and meanings of success, family, and emotional expression. It can also introduce challenges such as language barriers, the loss of previous social connections, pressure to build new ones, experiences of discrimination, and uncertainty about whether or how to stay in a new country.

 

In therapy, we can explore how cultural values, family expectations, social experiences, and personal identity interact in your life. I hope to support you in honoring the different parts of your experience while developing a clearer and more grounded sense of who you are, what you need, and how you want to move forward.

 

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Relationships, Boundaries, and Communication

 

I support clients who are navigating relationship stress, communication difficulties, people-pleasing, boundary-setting, loneliness, or the desire to feel more seen and understood. Sometimes, clients may find it difficult to balance others’ needs with their own, avoid conflict, or express what they truly feel and want.

 

Therapy can be a safe space for you to identify, understand, process, and evaluate your relational patterns and to clarify your emotional needs. Together, we can practice more authentic ways of communicating and work toward relationships that feel more mutual, respectful, and aligned with who you are.

Credentials 

  • Supervisor: Huilin Lai, LCSW: R081942

  • Degree: New York University/Master’s in Counseling for Mental Health & Wellness, in progress.

  • Degree: Washington University in St. Louis/Bachelor’s in Psychological & Brain Sciences

More About Me

My commitment to mental health advocacy began before I entered clinical training. In high school, I created a short film, Under the Brilliance, to raise awareness about mental health and reduce stigma. The project received media attention. I was later featured in a CCTV documentary on adolescent depression and recovery. This early experience deepened my commitment to mental health advocacy and reaffirmed my hope to support people who are navigating emotional pain, life transitions, and the process of healing.


If you are interested in watching Under the Brilliance, you can find it here.

If you are interested in watching Out of Abyss: Erasing Depression, you can find it here (content featuring me is in the first episode)

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Outside of clinical work, I like exploring good restaurants and cooking on my own. Food is one of the ways I slow down, connect with culture, and enjoy small moments of comfort in daily life. I also spend time with my friends in the United States and in China to stay connected, find small moments of joy and support within the busyness of daily life, and support each other. 

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