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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 7, 20232 min
Grievers are allowed to be sexual
Most people associate grievers with asexuality. So when grievers do start to feel sexual, they often instantly start to shame or...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Oct 12, 20223 min
What if there is no such a thing as sexual desire disorder?
I get clients asking me everyday, “Is it me?” “Am I abnormal?” “What do I do to increase or decrease my sexual desire?” As I...
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venetacallpani
Aug 13, 20222 min
When meditation and stillness doesn’t work
Meditation has been shown to have a great benefit in reducing stress, anxiety, and focusing in the present. This increases our awareness...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
May 14, 20212 min
Ladies, Let's reconstruct Love and Sex
We’re launching Part Two of our bilingual bicultural Love and Sex empowerment program for Asian women this weekend. The beta version is...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
May 1, 20212 min
When cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) not working
Perhaps you’ve tried CBT before or know a lot about it. Maybe it was effective or useless. Perhaps it’s completely new to you and you...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Mar 6, 20212 min
Asian Sexuality Matters
Look, I love my Asian community, we get a lot of good education on our academic future, career future, financial future, relationship...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 30, 20214 min
“Swiping Fatigue”? How about “slow dating” to be a more intentional dater?
Yes, I’m old school, but it works, especially during the pandemic. Look, I understand you might be “running out of time” , “what if I...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 16, 20214 min
支持团体常见问题
大家好， 我是Ally Counseling and Therapy创始人，赖彗临, LCSW-R。很多来访通过我们中心的支持团体认识我们。心理支持团体是一种有效的治疗方法。很多时候，我会问我的来访“你刚刚跟我分享的这个问题，之前有和你的朋友们讨论过么”，来访常常很诧异，我...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 16, 20214 min
Therapy Group Q & A
Dear readers, I’m Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, the Director of Ally Counseling and Therapy. Many of you probably learned about us through our...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 9, 20213 min
Four Elements for Stress Reduction
Hey there, I’m not channeling my ancient asian energy here today. I will introduce an effective stress reduction technique created by...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 1, 20212 min
Welcome
Happy New Year!!!!!I am thrilled to introduce two amazing emerging therapists to you. We warmly welcome you (socially-distanced) with...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Jan 1, 20212 min
欢迎大家
新年快乐!!! 我很高兴给大家介绍新加入Ally Counseling and Therapy的两位治疗师。 我是怎么想到在疫情期间慢慢壮大治疗团队的呢？其实这真的出乎我的意料。或许是由于多方压力吧，身体健康，经济和生活方式的大幅度改变，好多人第一次求助心理咨询。我从没想过...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Apr 21, 20204 min
最大的性器官是大脑—“吃货疗法”改变“性文化” 2
本文转自赖彗临个人主页 身体不听话 身体和大脑有时候“打架”的体验我们都知道吧，想想看有多少时候明明知道该起床，该干活了，身体却处于罢工状态？很多来访都和我反应我身体里面住了个“小孩”，“不听话”。我问ta， "真的是小孩不听话？还是那根本就不个孩子？" ...
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Huilin Lai, LCSW-R, CST
Apr 20, 20196 min
“吃货疗法”改变“性”文化
转载自赖彗临个人网站 我一直在思考，如何传达积极的性教育。我不想从具体性知识开始，因为知识在这个年代，很容易获得，但是如果本身性态度/性文化上有问题，再有价值的信息也会被歪曲误解成证明自己有问题的依据。未来的分享中挑选一个我觉得对大家会有帮助的讯息。 01 中国的吃货文化...
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